fair 1. free from bias, dishonesty, or injustice
I often get hung up on the idea of fairness, because life should be fair, right?
If I do good at a job interview and don’t get an offer, it’s not fair.
If I work hard to lose weight and see slow results, it’s not fair.
If I am a good person and bad things happen to me, it’s definitely not fair.
I guess this could tie into the more philosophical question (which I often also wonder) of, “Why do bad things happen to good people?” but I’m going to try and keep things light.
I am guilty as anyone else is on dropping the F-bomb (fair-bomb), because well, in a perfect world, things would indeed be fair. The immoral people who do bad things would experience bad things, and the moral and good people would be reaping in the goodness.
But it’s not a perfect world, our lives aren’t perfect, and surely people aren’t perfect.
I think one thing we have to remember is that life isn’t fair. The thought of fairness is irrelevant in our lives. Sure, if we work hard and are good people, I believe we will have our fair share of happiness, but we will also have our fair share of disappointment and pain. It’s just part of life.
Someone you love, who is a good person may fall ill, you won’t get the promotion you worked so hard for, and you may lose something or someone very important to you. You may find yourself in tears, crying out “This isn’t fair! I don’t deserve this!” I know I have many times. And you know what? You probably don’t deserve it.
Regardless, we need to focus on when live has been fair to us, when good things have happened, and know that good things will come again, even if it seems impossible. Life is so full of ups and downs, highs and lows. If you look back over your life I’m sure you’d agree.
I’m not saying it’s easy to be positive and brush off all this unfairness that will come your way, but if you can change your way of thinking about it, you’re bound to be happier.
Are you guilty of dropping the F-bomb? Will you try to have a more positive outlook about life and fairness in 2012?